Outta my control!

Well. I have spent most of today in tears. I feel like everything in my little world is out of my control - and I dont like that feeling. The stuff going on with my hubby's father has stirred up a lot of issues for him. This was going to be difficult enough without dredging all this stuff up now, so on top of being utterly terrified of the surgery, he is now way out there dealing with abandonment, and guilt, and sadness. None of which are very positive emotions to be helping him along. I just need everything to go smootly, just for a little while. Please?